The Empire Snokes Back

DISCLAIMER:  SPOILERS AHEAD. 

I could go on and on and on and that’s because Star Wars means so much to me as a Gen-X adult, as a sci-fi fan, and as a writer and critical thinker.  I realize I am critical.  It is not bad to have high expectations.  Our entire country if not our world would benefit from having higher expectations. This installment feels like they are trying to do the unexpected, that they are trying really hard to surprise the audience above all else.  In doing so, they lose the opportunity to have some really satisfying resolutions with Leia and Luke, with Rey and Kylo, even with Poe and Finn.  There are some opportunities to mirror the originals without being too derivative that were missed. I don’t hate the movie, but like so many films these days I wanted it to be better than it was. And maybe it’s a lesson for filmmakers that maybe the best stories are new ones, where there are fewer expectations.

Let the past die!  Kill it!

I didn’t love Force Awakens with its ridiculous planet-sized Death Star because it is too similar to the originals.  Each archetype is set up that way.  The orphan on the desert planet.  The new Darth Vader.  The new Emperor.  The new Grand Moff Tarkin.  Kylo killing his Dad was the big departure and sets up a pattern that is not fulfilled in the second movie with Super Leia’s miraculous survival.  It is amazing that Hux makes it to the second movie. His character pales compared to the urbane and sinister Tarkin.  A New Hope and Empire were not afraid to kill off generals or remove them from the chain of command. Empire is where Swamp Yoda trains Luke.  In this movie we have a reluctant Luke who fails to train Rey.

It speaks to the great love I have for Star Wars that I can remember most everything from a single viewing.  I almost don’t need to watch it again to remember all the ways this movie missed the mark.

The entire movie is a slow car chase.

We begin with an escape from a planet and the slowest bomb run in the history of the rebellion. Poe Dameron does things with an X-Wing Luke only dreamed of, but despite his pod racing skills, the X-Wing is not deemed a robust enough ship for the task.  I mean, it was good enough for the Death Star’s ray-shielded port, but obviously not for the Dreadnought.  The bombing itself is pretty laughable and is supposed to be an emotionally charged moment for Rose’s sister. This set up is so we can later feel some sort of connection to Rose. It is also a setup for Poe to learn not to be such a hot-shot fly-boy (this comes up a few times lest we miss the message).

We never get a satisfactory explanation for why the First Order can track ships in light speed or at all for that matter. Vader once let a ship go to track it to the rebel base, but no rational explanation here.  I mean there is a moment where Finn and Rose have a techno-babble-jinx moment, but it is lost on the rest of us.  The long slow chase is the anchor the plot is dragging throughout the whole movie.  We almost expect some kind of mirroring of Empire and it felt like Crait was the mirror image of Hoth, but instead was at the end of the movie, and for me that’s where the film should have started.  The rebels are being hunted and make a last stand at Crait only to escape and spread hope across the galaxy.  Rey could have gone to train and find Luke.  Poe and Finn could have had a side adventure separate from the rest of the fleet, and they could have all ended up on Monaco, the casino planet, where Poe has an old buddy that will help them that turns out to be Finn’s father.  Poe gets frozen in carbonite, Finn loses a hand and Bob’s your uncle.  But instead…

Maz Kanata takes a pointless phone call

…during a fire fight to set up the most pointless part of the movie.  She tells them to go to a far-off casino-planet to find a hacker with a flower button. This is a stretch at best and instead of finding who they’re looking for, Rose and Finn end up in prison with a criminal who has just been conveniently biding his time until he felt like picking the lock. I don’t know who these Monaco rent-a-cops are but they do a lousy job keeping people imprisoned.  Pro tip:  it helps if you take their lock picks away.

In their escape they get to free the enslaved human-faced horses of Monaco and tear up the city. This leads to BB-8 and Benicio Del Toro rescuing Finn and Rose.  This entire vignette is pointless except to justify the CGI budget and maybe a level of the video game in development.  It is also supposed to develop the Rose character, but while I like Rose we’ve already got Finn, and he isn’t growing meaningfully as a character.  I like Rose as a person, but not as an integral character.  She was pushed into the story and there’s never any real emotional connection.  At 2 1/2 hours, there is still too much story trying to be told.  The pacing is what bothered me in the first movie where Poe and Finn quickly and frenetically bond in the tie fighter during their escape.  It is a similarly paced and forced bonding with Finn and Rose.

Remember A New Hope where Luke at first doesn’t like Han much because he’s so confident about his ship.  Han doesn’t give much credit to hokey religions and ancient weapons.  Han is reluctant to rescue the princess until Luke tells him about a reward.

Han’s better nature is slowly drawn out of him as the movie goes on. 

It is arguably the best character development of that first film.  A man with a price on his head, a smuggler who only looks out for himself, finds people that really need him where his life can actually make a difference and in the end he comes through for them and from this a great friendship is forged.  Leia doesn’t like Han much either or Chewie, but they are forced to confront some difficult situations together and quickly form a bond.  There are a number of other great moments that prove these characters’ love and loyalty for each other over and over and over again.

This to me is the greatest shortcoming of all of the films afterwards.  The writers are so busy trying to come up with unexpected twists and beautiful tableaux that they neglect the relationships of the characters to one another and the experiences that they share.

In the meantime, Kylo is zeroing in on the rebel command ship and Mommy Dearest but hesitates. Here is the first disagreeable and unexpected twist as a couple other tie-fighters breach the bridge and Leia gets sucked into the vacuum of space. Now, maybe Star Lord and Gamorra can survive this because of their superpowers and alien DNA, but…

Leia using the Force to fly thru space after being knocked unconscious by being sucked out into the vacuum of space is a HUGE stretch.

If she’s that powerful, she’s been seriously holding back.

We know that Carrie Fisher is gone and here at least is a fitting way for her character to move on. She dies, but not at the hands of her son.  Kylo’s hesitation leaves him a glimmer of humanity and makes his claims about destroying the past ring false. Leia dead but not at his hands leaves Kylo with doubt about his darker nature.  We know by the end of the movie that Kylo knows Leia is still alive.  He senses a presence he hasn’t felt since…she was blown up and should have died.  Now, I have no problem with Leia being powerful with the Force, but be powerful all along.  Don’t make it this big hidden thing.  This is his Mom, Luke’s sister.  They both would have to know she was that strong.  And if she is, then why send him to Luke in the first place?

Instead we are left with Leia in a coma whereupon command falls to LAURA Dern Dern Dern, LAURA Dern Dern Dern, LAURA Der-ern Dern Dern Dern-ee-Dern [to the tune of Jurassic Park].

Her hair is purple so you know that things are about to go from neutral to punk rock city!

This detour-in-command seems to only serve the purpose of frustrating Poe Dameron. Knocking Dameron down a peg seems to be a driving force in the movie and I’m still trying to figure out why. Poe seems like he has just about the same impetuousness as a young Luke Skywalker, and the same brash confidence of a young Han Solo. So maybe it’s okay that he learns a valuable lesson in leadership, but it takes away from the rest of the story and is one of too many subplots to track.

Meanwhile Finn and Rose miraculously get on board the bigger First Order ship but PLOT TWIST FACE PUNCH! their plan is dashed, they get captured and sold out by Benicio del Toro, whereupon–you guessed it–Captain Phasma appears out of nowhere!  WHAT?!?! Phasma is another useless subplot shoehorned in at the last minute. Why does she wear a silver suit? What is her interest in Finn? Why do we care to see her eye through the helmet before she dies? Oh and I’ll buy that Finn may have had battle training even though he was a janitor, but how is he better than Phasma who has earned enough distinction to get to wear a silver stormtrooper suit?  The fight and conflict is over quickly and I’m left wondering why this particular subplot was at all necessary.

All of this happens as Laura Dern despite discouraging Poe from grand gestures makes a grand gesture that stops the command ship, but doesn’t absolutely destroy it, because then how would our cast of characters survive to the next movie?  Also, how can we have this ship destroyed and still have the First Order attack Crait right after the rebels get there?  I will at least say that the First Order had plenty of time to plan on the 18-hour car chase to Crait, so maybe they’re able to salvage enough of their attack squad, including the giant jet intake that is supposed to batter the gates of this old base.

The car chase is almost completely implausible because I don’t buy that the ship can only go so fast without jumping to light speed and continue to outpace the big ship.  They have other resources and I’m sure they could have deployed additional ships out of light speed from other parts of the galaxy.  I also don’t buy them running out of fuel.

Never in all of the Star Wars movies has anyone run out of gas. 

Hyperdrive malfunction?  Sure. Car won’t start?  Every morning with the Millenium Falcon.  But running out of gas is so…so…anticlimactic.

Rey finds Luke but Luke don’t want to train her now. This is what we’ve been waiting two years for.  This is the scene we are waiting to finish after the first film, and it starts out well.  The twist works.  Luke wants to end the Jedi.  He doesn’t want to train anyone else.  When he finally does agree to train Rey, they find a tree with books in it and a hole in the island. When Rey goes down she gets to see herself in an endless mirror line. And if that’s symbolic of something it is far too deep for me.  Too deep?  Get it? Ha.

What would a modern-day Star Wars movie be without its own Jar Jar Binks?  In this installment the role is played partially by sea creature teat milk, the fish-headed maids of the island, and the Porgs. It infuriates me that Disney will sell the crap out of the Porgs, but they serve absolutely no purpose except to be cute and marketable.  Poor Chewie was denied a good Porg sandwich. It would have been at least humorous to have a subtitled Chewbacca extolling the virtues of Porg Cuisine:  “They’s all kind of ways to make Porg:  Barbecue Porg, pulled Porg, Porg Chops, Porg sautee, etc.”

We get The “he said/she said” routine from Luke and Ben on what went down when Kylo went bad. But regardless he went bad and instead of confronting him head on like Kenobi did to Vader, Luke projects his image across the galaxy.  I mean not only does he project, but he projects from deep in a cavern he’s never seen to sit with Leia and walk around before having a final battle with his nephew.  This is really NBD, and it is unclear to me if Luke chooses to die or if he’s just plum tuckered out.  So Luke commits suicide I guess. Pretty disappointed that he projects an image across space to decide to give it up at the end.  Here is another opportunity missed to parallel the originals and give closure to the Skywalker character by having him go out like Obi Wan.

Does it bother anyone else that all the evil main characters are on the same ship?  I mean at the end of Jedi we get the Emperor and Vader on the Death Star, but the Death Star was built up throughout the whole movie as being unstoppable.  What’s the saying, “Those who fail to learn their history are doomed to repeat it?”  So Kylo brings Rey to Snoke, but instead of trying to turn Rey, he basically toys with her and reveals that he’s been in control all along.  Snoke seems too woke to fall for the old saber in the side trick.  Again a missed opportunity to parallel the originals and a way to show Snoke’s power by subverting Kylo’s attempt at subterfuge.  This particular scene makes Snoke seem like a pretty cheap villain.  We never find out why he’s hideously disfigured.  We never find out why he likes sparkly yellow robes.  So many questions.  And then Kylo and Rey have to fight the Teenage Mutant Ninja Sith with their various laser weapons.  The thing I’m getting out of all these movies is that armor is more hindrance than help.

So after they win that fight, they struggle for Luke’s old light-saber breaking it in two.  Why are there no ploys here, Kylo?  No side sabers, no lasers controlled in mid air.  Also, in the memories Luke and Kylo have, Luke’s saber is green and this one is blue.  Pick a color already!

“Strike me down and I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine.” 

I don’t know about Force ghosts, but if Yoda is out there, so is Anakin and Obi Wan, and if they can all call down lightning, I don’t know why there’s even a battle going on.  I get why Yoda finally passes on and why Obi Wan goes, but the death of Luke baffles me.  If he wasn’t going to actually be there fighting Kylo, killing him off doesn’t make any sense to me.

Rey’s parents.  So this is the question on so many minds after the Force Awakens, but in this episode it was-too put it lightly-a disappointing revelation.  It is a question with no significance.  And that is fine if she comes from nothing, much like Anakin, but why build it up and why answer it in such an unsatisfying manner?  Maybe again this is a misdirect and someone’s fan theory will prove true.  But if this is the truth, don’t build it up and pull the rug out from under us.  Have the truth be relevant and inform the growth of the character.

Who are your main good guy characters?  Rey, Finn, Poe.  Much like Leia, Luke, Han.  In Empire Leia and Han stuck together, but in Last Jedi the main characters all go their separate ways.  Finn is the character that despite all the on-screen time fails to develop in any meaningful way, and I think it is because he goes off on his own adventure.  The story in the originals was always strongest when the main 3 were together moving the story forward.  There was also that Leia/Han tension we got throughout A New Hope and Empire which carried beautifully through to Return of the Jedi.  Han despite his bravado proved to be a very dedicated and loyal friend going out after Luke in the freezing cold on Hoth, coming to his rescue in the Death Star trench, and offering to step aside in Return of the Jedi until he finds out he’s Leia’s brother.  The friendship of those three was so important in the originals and you just don’t feel the same bond in Force Awakens.  It’s obvious that Finn and Rey feel a bond, but it is left aside for the entire movie until the very end.  Poe, the character that was probably supposed to die in the first movie could have been a good addition to that close friendship, but he isn’t given enough time to develop a bond with Finn or Rey.  Finn and Poe had a good bit of buddy cop stuff in the first film, but get one scene where Finn leaks water to re-establish their friendship.

And this would have served the overarching message of the film that we need to save life instead of dying for glory.  But instead the three central characters are dragged to separate corners of the universe and get little screen time together.  This film was a missed opportunity to redeem the Force Awakens’ shortcomings, but instead leaves episode VII as the better story.

For everyone that liked it or loved it, I’m glad for you.  I will say that if Rian Johnson and all the folks involved in this had done a better job, you would have still loved it and I would have, too.  Nevertheless, I will still watch them, because a long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away anything was and still is possible.

Proposed Tax Reform Bill Analysis

In banking I have spent the better part of the last 18 years analyzing business and personal tax returns, taking classes and obtaining certificates that qualify me to understand different business entities, tax structures, sources and uses of income and legal tax avoidance strategies.  I am not a CPA and not qualified to give tax advice, but I can recommend what kinds of things you might discuss with your qualified tax adviser.

The first and most exciting part of the Trump Tax Plan is a reduction in corporate tax rates from 35% to 20%, a permanent 15% reduction to your corporate tax rate.  That sounds awesome, right?  But who does this benefit?

According to the Brookings Institute “Of the 26 million businesses in 2014, 95 percent were pass-throughs, while only 5 percent were C-corporations.”  C-Corps are made up primarily of publicly traded companies with a board of directors and shareholders.  If they report more than $75,000 in net profit (after expenses and deductions), they are subject to some of the highest income tax rates out there around 35%.

However, 95% of US businesses are pass-through businesses and are not subject to the corporate rate and will not benefit from a corporate income tax reduction.  Pass-throughs are taxed on the portion of income they “pass through” to owners, partners, or shareholders personal income tax returns.

There is a proposal to cap the amount of tax allowed on pass through income at 25%.  Under the proposed plan the personal bracket above 25% would apply to individuals making more than $200,000 and married couples making more than $260,000.  So again capping pass through income taxes only benefits filers making more than $200,000 at the lowest end of those scenarios.  What makes this harder to get excited about is that certain types of businesses would not qualify for a reduction depending on the interpretation of “service business” (accountants, lawyers, doctors, consultants, etc.).

The second thing I was excited about was the increase in the standard deduction.  Currently married filing jointly is at $12,700, and single at $6350.  Under the proposal, those rates would go to $24,000 married filing jointly and $12,000 for single filers.  This is great news by itself, and something I was really looking forward to.

However, the exemption deduction is proposed to be erased.  Currently the personal exemption reduction is $4050 per exemption claimed.  You can claim yourself, a spouse if filing jointly and any dependent children.  For a family of four, that is $16,200 in deductions they can claim.  For single filers with no children who can now have a $12,000 deduction vs. $6350, they will stand to gain in this aspect.  For that family of four married filing jointly, their $24,000 standard deduction is less than the $28,900 ($12,700 + $16,200) they’d have with the exemption in place.

The idea to moderate this is an increase in the child tax credit.  In this proposal is to increase by $600 from $1,000 to $1600 per child.  This has no effect on the childless single filer, but for single parents could be a net gain.  For a married couple with two kids, this partially closes the gap by adding $1200, but again does not make up for the elimination of the personal exemption deduction.

The other big provision I see is the elimination of the estate tax.  The estate tax is designed to avoid inter-generational accumulation of wealth.  Currently you are only subject to an estate tax if the estate is estimated to be worth over $5.8 million.  There are many ways for the wealthy to avoid this provision through the use of insurance and trusts and careful planning.

Several other deduction eliminations worth covering are student loan interest and medical expenses.  The proposed bill eliminates student loan interest as a deduction.  This seems like a strange provision at a time when student loan debt is at an all-time high.  Perhaps this is meant as a disincentive to borrow for school, but will hit people with the highest levels of student debt the hardest.  The other deduction is the medical expense deduction.  This applies to people who can document they have spent more than 10% of their modified AGI on medical care.  As medical care costs continue to rise this will impact more and more Americans.  I’m trying to see this as an incentive not to use medical services, but someone with a major surgery, or chronic condition, cancer or any acute need will probably fall into this category, and will miss this deduction.

These are the high points that I can find in my research from the various sources linked here including the Brookings Institute, Business Insider, the Bradford Tax Institute, and a few others including news sources like Fox News, CNBC, CNN, New York Times, Washington Post, and Forbes.  If you want to take a crack at analysis, here’s the full text of the bill in it’s latest proposed form.

What I see is a reduction in taxes for single filers, high income filers and large corporations.  It appears to penalize families with 2 or more children and people with high student debt or medical expenses that are in the middle class.

Blade Runner: 2049 — Life…Finds a Way…

SPOILERS.

I GUESS…

PEOPLE THAT ARE SENSITIVE TO SPOILERS SHOULDN’T READ ARTICLES IMO.

In reference to the title of this post, every movie would be better for having at least a small role for Jeff Goldblum to play, but he has nothing to do with Blade Runner or this review ; )  Also, for a film based on “Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep?” there is a dearth of sheep (All I’m sayin’).

The ending.  I get what the writers are trying to do, but one of the reasons that the original Blade Runner remained so loved in scifi circles is because of its ambiguous ending.  Ridley Scott doesn’t spoon feed you the message or give away every motivation.  It’s the mystery and the questions that keep it interesting.  So yes, the end of Blade Runner 2049 neatly ties up the story of Deckard and the Replicants (which is a pretty cool sounding band name).  He finds his long lost daughter who has an illness and is essential to the success of the whole Wallace conglomeration.  K, or Joe, whatever we want to call him dies in a very human gesture having discovered that his “real” memory is not his own and the most “human” thing he can do is die in the pursuit of a just cause.

“The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of the mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one.” –excerpted from Catcher in the Rye.  But from the first scene, you can tell this is a morality play of noble causes.

The writers were thinking this was the twist and hammered home the point that it is our actions and not a question of our birth that make us human.  Killing off K and giving the Deckard character a nice little gift-wrapped happy ending was too easy for me and an otherwise gorgeous and well thought-out mystery, left me unsatisfied, but not in a good way.  There were too many loose ends, no cliffhanger, almost if after 3 hours they had run out of time to tell the story and had to wrap things up.

The frayed loose ends:

Deckard asks Luv, “Where are we going?”  “Home,” she replies.  Where is home?  Obviously not to where Wallace holds court.  Breeding replicants, a factory, a secret underground of older replicants, a lab where they can extract Deckard’s older model secrets?  We never get to find out because K blasts them out of the air.

Wallace.  The fact that he has no eyes (or no sight) might reveal that he is a replicant himself.  Is he in control or is Luv?  We watch the obviously emotional scene as he clinically inspects and casually kills a new model replicant indicating that they lack what they need to be truly human.  Is his motivation megalomania or is it something deeper?  Is he motivated by the survival of humanity and creating a humanity that can survive?  His deeper motivations are left unexplored and in the end for me he merely functions as a Tyrell Corp surrogate.

K or Joe.  “Just call me Joe?  Like you were one of those stupid 22-year old girls with no last name.”–from You’ve Got Mail.  One’s a letter, the other’s a short name.  “What’s in a name? A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” –Shakespeare.  Here’s a missed opportunity if they wanted to call him anything other than K.  The “Joe” name should have been motivated by his wish for humanity, a book, a movie, or a real person he identifies with and wishes he were, but in this story it is a name plucked from thin air at random and carries no emotional weight to me.

Ana.  aka “the Unsatisfying story.”  Here was a missed opportunity to tell a better story.  The genetic records indicating that there were two children in my mind meant that K and Ana were twins, which to me better aligned with the death in childbirth mystery.   Replicant or not, a woman giving birth to twins has a greater chance of complication and is more consistent with an emergency C-section.  Now, I get hiding Ana in plain sight and making her think that she is genetically defective, but if that is the end of the story, then she is just a plot point and not a real character.  Especially considering if she were the person in those memories that K remembers, then she has already endured a great deal of hardship outside of her biodome.  I don’t get keeping her in a bubble if she had already survived to be a teenager.  I still contend they were twins and she has no genetic deficiency.  The other mystery here is if we assume that Ana implanted her own real memory into K, she would have done so directly and not as a random implant.  If she had either directly implanted her memory to K or that the memory was accessible to many replicants, then he was a great deal younger than her and not her twin.  I just don’t buy that this type of memory would be allowed to be implanted into replicants when the idea is to keep them compliant and provide them artificial memories that keep them settled.  And again, the lack of exploration of the Ana character leaves a lot of unanswered questions.

The Replicant Underground.  Isn’t it the Blade Runner’s job to retire these folks?  If so, they aren’t doing a very good job as evidenced by Freysa and her Replicant Army.

Enough grousing.  Let’s get on to the good:

A Beautiful World.  The haunting dystopia is amazingly well done visually speaking.  None of the special effects feel overdone to me.  It is enough for this movie to be a work of art if nothing else.  The crowded urban landscapes in the rain (always in the rain) with the incessant holograms advertising for primal needs and wants.  It paints a reality that can only satisfy the basest needs.  The eerie and desolate landscapes outside of the city, from the abandoned city, to the junkyard, to the biosphere farm where nothing grows.  It is a hard world to live in, and feels as if everyone from the government, to the companies, to the underground wants you to be stupid, ignorant and unhappy.

The well done mystery.  From the discovery of the coffin, 2049 is set up as a detective story and that is what engages me in the first part of the story.  The hard thing to do with a mystery is to solve it in a way that leaves the audience satisfied, that answers the questions.  The other way to do it is to seemingly solve the mystery, but leave some answers vaguely unsatisfying.  This is arguably what gave the original Blade Runner such a cult following.  Now, if Ridley Scott hadn’t gone one to direct some of the most popular scifi of the past 30-40 years,  or if Harrison Ford had not gone on to be such a superstar actor, we might never have seen this sequel.  For all my nitpicking complaints, I really enjoyed watching K follow each thread of the mystery.

Luv and Joi.  I will take Luv over Joi every day of the week.  I think there is some deeper meaning behind their names and some subtext we are meant to get out of comparing these two characters.  When Luv cries over the death of a Replicant, it is difficult now to determine whether she feels controlled by Wallace and laments the death of a Replicant, or she shares his grief and feeling that they still cannot find the secret that allows Replicants to procreate.  Would we then call them Procreants?  Joi we see as a special companion to K.  She provides him joy and maybe something akin to love, but nothing real or permanent.  When he sees her giant naked body as just another program, I think it hammers home for K, that she is just a program doing what a program does, and makes him wonder “am I doing the same thing?  Following my programming.”

What is humanity? The movie like its predecessor asks this question very well.  What is real vs. what is artificial?  What defines our humanity?  Is it procreation, our actions, is it love?  Exploring these questions across an incredible backdrop with a mystery in tow makes Blade Runner 2049 one of my favorite movies of the past few years.

Interpreting “Nashville Obsolete” by Dave Rawlings Machine

It’s strange to think I owe a debt of gratitude to the Coen brothers for my musical tastes.  The soundtrack to “O Brother, Where Art Thou?” cemented my musical leanings and has influenced the shows I attend and the albums I buy.  Allison Krauss, Gillian Welch, Dan Tyminski, Emmylou Harris, among other great company were put on my radar.  There are a few others whose family trees (artists they’ve worked with or been in bands with) I follow like the Indigo Girls (their Atlanta influence), Nickel Creek (Chris Thile and the Watson Family) where no matter what iteration of band or related artist, it always promises to be a good show, and good music I like.

I would be remiss if I didn’t give credit to Phil Norman a folk singer of some renown in the greater Blue Ridge/Roanoke Valley for pointing out my first Dave Rawlings show to me.  It was a little more country and folky than I was used to at the time, but the show left me in a state of incredible delight.  Dave in his shows delivers a few covers, collaborations and originals in a beautiful tenor and his signature picking style, with Gillian Welch providing flawless accompanying vocals and guitar; Willie Watson fiddles and guitars while finding room for 3-part harmony and Brittany Haas plays perfect accompanying and solo fiddle.  Paul Kowert of Punch Brothers also plays upright bass with them on occasion.

I’m just beginning to love the new Dave Rawlings’ “Poor David’s Almanack” but wanted to cover my deep love of “Nashville Obsolete” as a masterpiece album of great Southern Americana.  A bit of a mea culpa to start, I have not ever listened all the way thru the track called “The Trip.”  At almost 11 minutes, I have a feeling there is going to be a little too much guitar solo and just haven’t had the patience to let it percolate in my consciousness yet.  Call it the ADHD of the age.  Lyrically “The Trip” helps establish a theme of movement and travel, and lost wandering which permeate the entire album.

The album starts with “the Weekend,” which I think is a great place to start.  It’s ironic to me that someone whose work probably often revolves around the weekend and has a crazy schedule when touring, should sing about the universal longing and almost holy experience of the weekend.  Ever since “Sweet Tooth” I always suspect some sort of drug reference in Dave and Gillian’s songs and “the Weekend” could certainly be interpreted that way, but the great thing about their poetry is they don’t have to spell out the meaning and it is open to interpretation.  I think at its simplest this song is about the infusion of hope we put into a good weekend and how sad we are once it is gone.  This can be said sadly of some relationships as well.  “The good ones never last.”

“Short-Haired Woman Blues” is an aching song about unrequited love.  “Oh, it’s just a game she told me.  I said no, I am reborn.”  The male voice felt the experience more keenly and is heartbroken when the feeling is not returned or when the relationship ends.  He looks back with a tinge of bitterness which he channels into a life lesson about “chasing wild ponies.”  “Don’t go loving short-haired women.  They’re gonna leave you crying, after thinking it was all in fun.”

“Bodysnatchers” is a song about the railroad from the chorus “20 years of lining down the track.”  Dave and Gillian have a fascination with trains and their history; you can pick up references or themes alluding to the train in a lot of their music.  In this case, I believe bodysnatchers is a reference to the sometimes forced labor and indentured servitude that built the railroads, although it also alludes to the barges up the river and Mississippi river queens.  It’s definitely a song about loss, a life spent in labor, often without choice.  I picture a son returning home after a long life of labor and his mother being fiercely protective to make sure he never experiences that life again.

“The Last Pharaoh” proves that Dave & Gillian are students of American history with the reference to “that big Kate Adams” which was a steamer ship on the Mississipi at the turn of the 20th century.  Unlike “Bodysnatchers” we see a different side of the river legacy in a card game.  The narrator is looking for “the last Pharaoh” which may be an allusion to a game called Faro popular in the early 1900s.  Faro is referenced in a lot of popular literature and entertainment of the time.  Natchez is a town along the banks of the Mississippi and King’s Tavern was founded by Richard King in the 18th century, so “lady luck makes the kings, the Natchez kings” could be a direct reference to the King family which was a prominent family in that city and the history of the riverboats benefiting from that commerce and a culture of gambling.  Discounting the possible historical influence it’s a great song about a card game and the pursuit of winning and the gambler’s belief that he can win if he can find the “next high card.”

“Candy” is a good companion song to the popular “Sweet Tooth” from “A Friend of a Friend” and has a delightful simple and repetitive lyric.  Candy in “Sweet Tooth” is a way to talk about drugs and addiction, and I wonder if there is some of that here. “Mama’s got something in her hand,” and “Does someone want a little more” could be read that way, but if we follow the historical theme of the last few songs and the style evocative of earlier folk tunes, I think it may also be an homage to the rampant commercialization of the candy industry in the early 1900s.  Brach’s, Hershey, Reese’s, Mars, all trace their origins to this time period and their success largely has to do with the spread of radio where their jingles and ads proliferated.  Maybe that’s a stretch that a song called Candy could actually be about candy, but it seems that the style of the song and the repetitive lyric signify something more than a person, more than a drug, or a relationship.  It makes me think of old folk tunes playing on the radio in between ads for Hershey bars.

“Pilgrim (You Can’t Go Home)” is a song about the traveling artist.  It speaks with a longing for home, knowing that the lure of the road will always pull the narrator on despite the struggles of what the open road brings.  “And pity those who never felt inspiration’s cold wet nose.  It wakes you up out in the ditch where you’re tumbling round where the four winds blow.”  There’s alcoholism, poverty, drug abuse, suicide, but “what those devils called your greatest sin, Gabriel and I called your great escape.”  At the end of the song there is a reference to St. James Infirmary which may allude to the Louis Armstrong “St. James Infirmary Blues” which would make sense because both songs deal with the nature of a traveling life, the temptations and the consequences, and Armstrong’s song is from the time period that Dave & Gillian seem to reference throughout.

The theme of movement is thick in this album, whether by train or riverboat.  Loss is felt keenly here, lost love, loss of home, loss of time, and there is a conscious or unconscious age to the material through the style of music, reference to times long gone, and the influence you hear in the music which is a legacy of the great musicians past.  And finally what’s in the album title?  Nashville Obsolete seems to be a challenge, a question, and maybe a self-afflicted label for Dave and company.

Dave and Gillian are masters of their craft and I think he sums it up best when asked how to interpret his work, “…I can talk about the language we work in with Gillian and our personal mythology, but it’s like asking James Joyce why he’s obsessed with certain themes in his books. I’m sure he can tell you why he’s interested in them, but at the deepest and truest level, none of us have any idea.” (excerpted from No Depression interview)

A Defenders Review:  Emotional Tension is Missing (Spoilers Galore)

The Hand as a criminal organization is pretty rad in Daredevil and Iron Fist, but in Defenders they suck pretty hard and are bad cannon fodder for the newly assembled team.

Sigourney Weaver – I’m not using her name in the show, because as we find out, she has many names.  Outside of a scene where she subdues Elektra, she is the least scary villain we’ve seen in the Hell’s Kitchen MCU.  It is a waste of her talent, because she could have been so much more ruthless and insidious.  There is no superpower or threat that backs up her authority.

The team-up — Okay, we get that Matt struggles with actually enjoying the DD life and wants nothing more than to cling to normalcy.  Jessica doesn’t really play well with others.  How they all end up at Midland Circle at the same time is not very well scripted except in how Jessica gets there.  Danny is a little too impulsive going on his own.  Murdock tailing Jessica I can kind of get behind, but Luke randomly showing up is the biggest stretch.  This needed more work because it is the crucial plot point in the story.

The fingers of the Hand-

these behind-the-scenes ruthless immortals are a joke in Defenders.  Bukido does not seem like he belongs in the same room.  He seems like he should be a lower tier bad guy, and it’s sad that it takes Misty, Colleen, and Claire to take him out, when it really should be a Colleen Wing badassery moment.  

Guy that speaks Japanese-I honestly don’t remember his name because he is so unmemorable except that he likes to speak a different language often and disembowel rare bears.  Nobu was ten times better than this guy.

Madame Gao- Is the best villain in this whole group and is wasted playing second fiddle to Ripley (Sigourney).  The unsanswerable seems to be how is Gao this powerful force-wielding old lady, but everyone else is just good at karate.  My hope is that she survives to play behind the scenes bad guy again.  Gao is the only one-even underutilized as she is-that seems like she should be leading the bad guys.

Remember the tension between her and Kingpin, the way she plays up her age and speaking a different language that she uses intermediaries and such.  Gao deserved to have better characterization more loyal to her DD and Iron Fist portrayals.

Misty Knight and the NYPD precinct – Anyone else feel like sidelining all of the super friends’ friends was just asking to put them in harm’s way?  Instead they were safe in the precinct.  No stealthy ninjas to capture them for the end game.  And Misty has a wasted role as well.  There is no detective work in her role, no revelations she stumbles across.  Her only function in the entire show is to ask questions and not get any answers.  

To be fair, the actress did the best with what she was given, but the Misty character serves no purpose other than to wander around and get threatened with her job repeatedly.  It would have been better if she could have taken a hard line with any of the superfriends, or been fired, or gone rogue.  She spent 8 episodes doing nothing.  That is a waste.

Karen Page-another wasted opportunity is Karen Page safe and sound as a reporter who can’t report and stowed away in the NYPD.  The writers missed a golden opportunity to pit Matt’s feelings for Karen against his feelings for Elektra.  She is never in danger and so there is no emotional tension for the Daredevil character.  Karen also doesn’t go rogue for the story of a lifetime.  She’s out on the shelf and it’s not a good place for her to be.

Trish Talk – Trish and Karen have a brief moment talking, but otherwise have their journalistic instincts thoroughly repressed and neither encounter any threat or danger.  There is none of that tenacity or search for truth they have in DD and Jessica Jones.  That role is given to Jessica herself who is the only curious person of the bunch.

Mister White Hat- This is the least memorable of the Hand.  There is virtually no tie to the Harlem vibe we felt in Luke Cage or his potential African influence, no sense of his power, and in that regard I felt like Defenders was nearly entirely whitewashed.  This is the guy that is in charge of Africa and is supposed to have some powers, but is pretty easily subdued (off camera I might add) and killed.  There is no character development.  At least with Gao and Bukido we have seen where they came from or at least what they do in other shows.  What’s sad to me is he is never given a chance to be anything but a token black villain with a very minor role.  And the white hat gimmick has no sense of mystery or threat.  He casts it aside at the earliest opportunity.

Other missed opportunities:

So we’re just going to let Claire ignore that Luke has basically hooked up with half the female cast.  He’s such a nice guy he’s given a pass.  There’s no tension there.  A perfect brief scene would be them getting it on and Luke being a little too rough and Claire getting a little banged up.  Then Luke could be like, “I really like Claire, but at least I don’t have to worry about hurting Jessica physically.” No?

No tension with Matt and Claire, no tension between Jessica and Claire, no jealousy between Elektra and Karen.  Colleen Wing is continually thrust into a supporting role instead of closer to the action.  Also last time I looked Claire was training with Wing and had some cool hooky claw things, but we see very little action from her. 

There was that scene where Jessica is talking to the architect’s wife and the grandparents are let in upstairs.  This seemed like a perfect opportunity for Sigourney or another of the Hand to pretend to pay their respects and for Jessica to get into a tense staring match.

Pep Talk #1: Procrastinate

I am a notorious procrastinator.  It is a sign of my intelligence, or at least that is what I’ve decided to believe.  I don’t even know if anyone knows I’m notorious, which I guess is the definition of notoriety.  Maybe I’m not well known for it.  But I do it.  You do, too.

So let’s get it out of the way, then, shall we?  Maybe a quick run-down of procrastination habits will help get it out of the way and we can return to being productive.  Of course, there is social media.  If I don’t like, share, and comment on at least a dozen posts several times a day, people will think I’m dead.  And then of course, I must overshare how my day is going, what my kid did, the picture of the food I created, maybe some pictures of my family at their absolute best.  I probably need to read a book, some articles, and watch some TV before I do any work.  I am so multi-talented, I should probably find time to practice guitar, and you know what, I have a regular job I should probably be getting to, so all that procrastination has led to zero productivity.

I have no time.  This is one of the biggest reasons we never get started on the dream project.  If you’re like me, you think of time in hour increments.  If I don’t have a spare hour, I don’t even think about getting to the gym, sitting down to write, or anything else on my coulda-shoulda-woulda list.  But I think if we can get comfortable with 5 minute increments, we can get in the habit of taking advantage of those discrete intervals and setting mini-goals that are attainable in that time frame.

A goal or purpose should consume you and fill your mind with a determination.   I think in many cases, this purpose must be manufactured and built slowly, like a setting a fire in a rain forest.  It can be done, but you have to be meticulous and intentional about building the right environment for success to thrive.

BHAG.  Our BNI area director, James Barber, talks about having a Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG).  And I’m going to borrow that term and call it my Sasquatch (Scary Audacious Super Quest Universe at the Crap Handler…okay I’m still working on my acronym).  Maybe yeti would be shorter.  I’m trying to think of something big and hairy to tie to the BHAG.  But anyway, you have to come up with something larger than life, something that requires a naivete or foolishness, a confidence, to say that you’re going to do.  It’s not bragging, because you haven’t done it yet, but if you say it and you can continue to say it until it consumes your every thought and continues to daily motivate you to make progress toward that goal, then that is what matters.

It’s not enough to say what you want, you have to say what you are, what you will accomplish.  There can be no doubt in the statement.  You must say it loud and proud.

“I am going to be an international bestselling fantasy and scifi writer whose books change hearts and minds through the clever humor and mystery contained therein.”

There you go.  Let’s do this!

Or…maybe it can wait…

Remember This…If You Can.

I watched a Ted Talk on memory a few months back and it has embedded itself, working through my subconscious mind until now.  Joshua Foer is an independent journalist who became interested in writing about a group of people who participated in the US Memory Championships.  He became so infatuated with the topic that he trained himself in the techniques and won the Championship himself in 2006.

If you are a fan of the BBC production, Sherlock, then you may be familiar with the Mind Palace, a memorization technique.  The idea of the Mind Palace has been around since the early Greek philosophers as a concept called the Method of Loci (no, not the Norse trickster god).  It is essentially associating something you want to remember with a place or an image.  To remember multiple things you build a Memory Palace or a house with things in it that you then associate with what you want to remember.

Alex Mullen has recently surpassed Foer’s accomplishments to be the 2-time and current US Memory Champ.  He runs a non-profit that works to disseminate and encourage these types of techniques.  On his website, one of his intro videos shows you how to memorize a list of 20-words.  He does so by walking around his house and inside and associates each word with a different item, and gives a description of the image that he would picture.

I am just at the tip of the iceberg on memory training.  His initial video seemed unnecessarily complicated, but he’s the memory champ, not me.  I took the same list and told a story-kind of like my dreams go where I make a decision and am in a completely different environment, almost like a Rube Goldberg device where one seemingly unrelated thing leads to the next.  Telling the story of those words in a visual way, once I had composed the story (maybe 5 minutes), I was able to fully recall all 20 words.  Amazingly, an hour later, after unrelated work, starting the story, I was able to recall the 20 words again.

I have a lot to learn about memorization, but in a remarkably short time I was able to memorize something fairly random that I had no real reason to memorize other than for the novelty of it.

 

Iron Fist Proves Viewers are Smarter Than Critics

Iron Fist is outstanding.  Let me get that out of the way.

Before it even dropped onto Netflix, the critics claws were out and determined Iron Fist was the first failure of the Netflix/Marvel partnership.  Let’s look at the common criticisms.

Non-Asian lead.  For some reason Batman gets a pass on this as well as Arrow.  All of these characters were written by white folks and I’m sorry they didn’t want to write an Asian character as the lead, but that’s the way they were written.  There are however some outstanding Asian characters in Iron Fist, Colleen Wing, Madam Gao, for some.  You might also consider Davos or Bukido as strong Asian characters.  The real solution here is to write an Asian lead from scratch and not borrow or change other established characters.  It’s not a fair criticism for a show that does a tremendous job of honoring the origin story.  Also I hope Rosario Dawson is making some major bank, because she is fantastic!  She is the best thing ever for each story as she provides a much needed anchor to reality and some sense of normalcy.  Her struggles, fear, her unwillingness to back down, make her the real standout, and it’s really unfair to everyone else.

Slow pacing.  This one I don’t understand as I watch an elaborate shoot and punch scene.  It’s not constant action, but neither are any of the other Marvel/Netflix shows.  Maybe it’s that the producers didn’t decide to do the shaky cam fight perspective they used in the Bourne movies.  There is great character development as the layers of deception are peeled back one by one and you think “how much more messed up can these people get?”  Mysteries are not allowed to languish.  Compared to Jessica Jones, Iron Fist is non-stop action.

Fighting sucks.  Again, I’m not sure we watched the same show.  My favorite fight scene for Danny is the hatchet-wielding Triad where he kicks and punches, but also does so in a way that uses his opponents’ energy against them.  As the series develops his fighting style becomes more offensive as he struggles to control his anger and properly harness his Chi.

Danny Rand.  Finn Jones is not Batman and is not the Green Arrow, but that is what we are expecting.  Despite harsh training, he is ultimately a protector, and has the same emotional maturity of the kid left for dead in the snow.  I see where the writers are trying to go here in not trying to write the same origin story as Batman or Green Arrow.  He comes back to search for his lost childhood and is forced to slowly come to terms that he can’t really go back and reclaim it.  The Rand character is an adolescent and again despite his training is prone to outbursts, emotional swings, and I think that is what the writers and actor are trying to convey.   For me, it was not a distraction, but I see how for others it was what they picked up on to criticize.

The White Savior.  I find it hard to believe that cultural appropriation wasn’t a consideration by the writers and producers.  Luke Cage was intentionally an African-American Harlem story, culturally through and through.  Iron Fist is an Asian American movie, that links Asians from the old world to the new world.   The lead is white trained by Tibetan-style warrior monks, the music is intentionally hip-hop, but many of the supporting cast has some sort of Asian heritage.  Maybe I give the writers too much credit, but I have to believe it’s a statement about Asian culture in America.  When we think about minorities in the US, we typically think African American and Latino.  Asians in the US are at least a standout minority in the US, but are incredibly diverse within that continental and cultural designation.  Koreans, Chinese, Japanese, Indian, Indonesian, Phillipines, Vietnam, and more countries make up the racial designation of Asian in America.  And I don’t know if you noticed in the series, but the Fist is not a bad-ass on his own.  He requires a LOT of help, and royally screws up just about every time he faces an opponent, partially because he can’t always reliably access his Chi.

I believe the ultimate statement in Iron Fist is that Asians in America are not a recognized minority because of their incredible diversity, so they are overshadowed by a white lead or another minority that has a strong identity.

Or I may give the writers way, way too much credit and it really is just a comic book story about Iron Fist as relayed in the comics.  And if that’s the case, it is fun and interesting story to me, too.

Disclaimer:  I’m a white privileged non-immigrant US citizen, so what the hell do I know?

 

A Crisis of Faith: The Decline of Organized Religion

Some statistics say that US church membership is in decline.  Every person I speak to that  doesn’t go to church wants something more than a single book from 2000 years ago to find meaning in their lives.  They also don’t want someone telling them how terrible we all are.  In a world that at times seems hopeless, they are looking to faith for inspiration and reassurance rather than fire and brimstone.  For me personally, sitting in church on one of the few days off I get during the week, singing old music, listening to a speech, and studying an ancient book all fail to make my life feel meaningful or make me feel a part of a community of like-minded individuals.

A man-made faith For every person that tells me a holy text is divinely inspired, I ask why have their been no additional divinely inspired texts recently.  Where is God today?  The answers are many, but one reason church attendance may be down is a failure to recognize new ideas, to update rituals of worship, to leave out the thee’s and thou’s and begats.  Men, and I do mean it as gender-specific, have written all of the canonic religious texts.  The fact that religion excludes half of our population or seeks to limit their role or potential is a non-starter for me.  The fact that some countries are governed closely with their dominant religion and that women don’t have a place at the table (except to prepare the food and bear children), is another reason I have not to like religion much.  Men sat down together at the Council of Nicea and said, “Here’s the Bible, here’s the church” and from the earliest iterations to the multitude of denominations and practices this is the church we know today created by men for men.

The Fallible Document  Every time I hear that the Bible is infallible, I always wonder why being so unimpeachable it is the most interpreted and contentious text in history.  It is easier for Christians to look at the Middle East as an illustration of how differences in interpretation have led to wars, and definitely to extreme suffering, but it is true of Christianity as well as any large religion.  The Bible now over 2000 years old is supposed to be the instruction manual for my life.  Even textbooks get a second edition every other year.  Why is this document so relevant that it will continue on down throughout history unchanged?

It is readily apparent to anyone who spends enough time reading the Bible that there is good content and moral instruction, but the morality comes at the price of belonging to a religion and a church and holding one text above all others.  It is the exclusion and resistance to change that leads to its own decline.

Comparative Religion Moral instruction, a monotheistic religion, and a promise of eternal life are found in at least 3 major world religions.  Why is one better than any other?  My answer would be conquest, war, and aggressive missionary practices (yes, both kinds).  These acts and not the morals they espouse have made one religion more widespread than another.  If the quality of a good religion is moral instruction alone, you could hold up most major religions as good examples that can be basically distilled into don’t kill people and don’t steal from people.

Unfortunately there is no moral GRE that qualifies only people with high ethical standards to be in places of leadership in the church and without, so some of the worst people in history have been practitioners of religion.  It is from a place of conquest that majority religions have spread, not from their moral imperative.  Conversely, it does not require religion or religious understanding to have high moral standards.

The Enlightened Community Although the US is a majority Christian nation, it’s church attendance and membership population is in decline.  This could be partially in relation to freedom of religion becoming freedom from religion.  Church for many is no longer the center of the community as people find their interests and community link them to societies, hobbies, and other memberships that to them have greater meaning than a church family.

Some in the church decry this as a slide toward hedonism or consumerism, a soulless unfulfilling life that will always be lacking.  Instead of facing a modern society and watching the unaffiliated churches that are filling the pews, the establishment church is fine with business as usual, a stale bureaucratic existence.  If they don’t adapt, they are doomed to continue to decline.

There are those also who like what the Bible has to say, it’s parables, but choke on the promise of eternal life, forgiveness of sins, and/or the one true God.  Looking for an explanation for life, the universe, and everything, Douglas Adams exclaimed that the answer was 42.  Those fleeing the church have found the Biblical answer equally unsatisfying and frustrating.  Science has advanced to a point where our understanding of the universe is deep and nuanced and we can spend our entire lives searching for more answers.  The answers that science provides in many ways refute a religious view of our world, but in one way there is an irrefutable immutable answer that always eludes science: creation.

God vs. Science  The evidence we have shows that our planet is billions of years old, and why this is a refutation of religion, I don’t know, but it is a sticking point with creationists who declare the world is flat and less than 10,000 years old.  Science can take us back as far as the Big Bang, but does not currently have an explanation for that first force that set the Big Bang in motion, nor does it explain what happened before that moment in time.  If that isn’t the greatest evidence for some sort of supernatural deity, I don’t know what is.

From the primitive worship of Greek and Roman, Hittite and Sumerian gods, to the new monotheism, we have always looked to a supernatural beings to explain what we don’t understand.  We still do.  What happens to consciousness and individuality at death?  The thing we greatly fear is oblivion, the loss of being, and from that fear springs a belief in a neverending afterlife.  We as rational amazing animals cannot accept that our only purpose is to live and die and survive.  So we have fabricated the promise of eternal life.  But why should we live this mortal life, if we can have eternal life on another plane of existence?  Even typing these words is difficult and produces in me a great deal of existential angst.  Religion answers these questions and fears in a way that science cannot, because science has an answer we do not want to hear.  Energy is neither created nor destroyed, but we don’t know about your personality, your individuality, or your soul.

But if we focus our collective intellects on a better understanding of our universe, we discover that the sun is not a god in a chariot driving across the sky, but a giant ball of burning gas.  Jupiter is really a gas giant and not a star, and stars are similar to our sun.  Only not all stars are the same.  Some are older, some are younger, and when they go supernova, some create black holes.

And to me these explanations while not as fanciful are infinitely more exciting and meaningful.  And so far they have done nothing to diminish the possibility that beyond the Big Bang we live in a created Universe.  As long as there are questions left unanswered, there lives my God.  And really my God is a god of discovery and curiosity and creation.

If I had my way, ancient religions and practices would fall away in favor of soulful community, the pursuit of discovery, and instilling in every person a feeling of purpose for the betterment of themselves, their families and humankind for now and for the possibly infinite future.  But what do I know?  I’m just some damn fool idealist.

Social Media Feed:  A Healthy Diet

I am alarmed in daily conversations with the number of seemingly high-functioning adults that talk about social media exhaustion or bombardment and have made the decision to quit these platforms–even if only temporarily.  My wife and I like to call them “the Facebook suicides.”  How often do you see someone who posts that they’re taking a break from Facebook usually around a particularly contentious political campaign or a contentious post that leads to argument?  Even in that “suicide note” there is either a play for attention or a feeling of obligation to others.  Although, my reaction is sometimes “bye, Felicia” I think that it is a cry for help.

I have a few tips, personal rules, and advice to give on this subject to help protect ourselves not only from bad people and circumstances, but also to protect ourselves and not invest our emotional capital in too many stories.

Social media rule #1-You Are What You Eat.  If you consume a steady diet of bad news, don’t be surprised if you don’t become cynical and depressed.  Feed yourself inspiration and you will be inspired and inspire others.  There is a cultural phenomenon I’ve noticed where people feel they are obligated to care for the world or for a certain caliber of literature or to care about all the terrible things happening in the world.  It is the same with people that become trapped in the 24-hour cable news cycle.  I don’t know where this obligation comes from, but I do know that escaping it can be difficult.  Some do it for the schadenfreude, some to stay informed, but others increase their own suffering by reading about the suffering of others.  It is one thing to stay informed about world events, but it is another to wallow in the rampant misery that can be found in the greater world.  News media gravitates toward the most terrible events and sensationalizes them.  There are 7.5 billion people on the planet and we cannot possibly hope to experience all their suffering to be informed about all their lives, nor can we have the empathic capacity to care for them all.  Nor does it do us any good to hear about something we cannot have a reasonable impact on.  The news tends to follow anything related to death, so if that is all we consume, we can quickly form a world view that does not acknowledge the good things that are happening all around us.

Conversely, some people worry that only focusing on good things means you are ignorant and unprepared for the real world.  By my way of thinking, the world is what we make of it.  If consuming good news gives me hope, optimism, and energy, these are things I think will help me make my bit of the world a better place.

The great thing about Social Media is that it is a tool.  It is one way in which we can experience the world, and we can set our filters, use our privacy settings and be largely in control of what we see.  We must remember that we have control.  Facebook, for example has some amazing tools that let you see more of what you want, less of who you don’t, or let’s you begin and end friendships every day.

Social Media Rule #2:  Friends.  How many do you need?  Let’s be honest that social media is a popularity contest.  That is what drives you to have 500 friends on Facebook, 1000s on Twitter and Insta.  We have an innate desire to be well-liked.  Although social media can be a powerful tool to connect, there are few personal, intimate, and meaningful connections we actually make online.  We certainly can’t be good friends to hundreds or thousands.  I can sit on my feed and like posts all day long trying to honor every acquaintance I’ve ever made hoping that out of a hundred likes, they see mine, and that they appreciate how I’m cultivating that relationship, but it does nothing to strengthen the deep connections I have with my closest friends.

Don’t be friends on social media with people who upset you on a regular basis by what they post.  Unfriend.  It is simple.  If this person a) notices and b) is offended enough to ask why, you can honestly say that your posts upset me and I found I was no longer enjoying my feed because of you.  Sometimes it’s what someone needs to hear, and if they can’t accept the criticism and become abusive, it is time to cut that person from your life.

On the other end of this argument are the connections we choose to make online that are good for us.  For example I have a friend I went to college with who lives far away.  I don’t know if I will ever see him again or talk to him on the phone for that matter, but our beliefs and interests are such that we find a lot in common and online it is a wonderful friendship that I find worth cultivating.  He also makes me laugh.  Humor is an important component of my friendships and that’s what makes me want to get out of bed in the morning.

Social Media Rule #3:  Comments.  Nothing more than a few sentences at most.  What an incredible tool we have to start conversations, but it is fairly easy to get drawn into arguments, name-calling, and again feeling terrible.  I try to limit my comments to something brief, because it is really easy if you disagree with something to start typing a letter.  The problem with this type of rant is that you aren’t composing an email to send, but are immediately responding to something usually from a very emotional place.  So again, if I start to get a couple paragraphs deep, I know that it is something I’m passionate about and that I need to reconsider my response.

Often what I will do is copy and paste my comment into a blog post, and then if someone wants to read it later they can after the emotion of the moment is spent.  The comment is usually for my benefit anyway.  And sometimes writing it out in something I’m going to edit allows me to carefully think about what I want to say and sometimes I will delete, leave for later editing, or find a more succinct way to say what I want to say.

I still believe that conversations of a serious nature in order to be productive should be had in person, or on the phone at least.  There is so much room to interpret tone and meaning in the written word.  I break this rule from time to time and almost always regret it.  If a long response starts a contentious conversation, you can always ignore additional responses.  As tempting as it is to tell someone how wrong they are and point out their inconsistent arguments, it is almost always fruitless.

Social Media Rule #4: Post Frequency.  Have you ever experienced the dreaded anxiety of wondering whether someone is reading your post?  Did they click the video?  Do they understand the essential you-ness of you?  If you look to social media for all of your validation, it may be time to get out of the house a little.

I follow a rule of three most often.  I can easily find more than 3 things I want to say or share in a row, but I know that frequent posting is a turn-off for many, so I try and distill my posting to once a day, two to three times if I can’t help myself.  Now, if you are blogger or make your living by cultivating an online audience, you might follow different rules, but for most of us, this is a good rule not to turn off the people who already like you and appreciate your insights and informative posts, pictures of family and food, the memes, the humorous articles.

There is so much to consume, but it is good to stop and take stock from time to time about how beneficial it is to us and get back in control of our social media diet.